Alone

Does that word sound sad to you? I don't hear sadness when I hear the word alone. I think being alone is a necessary from time to time. Human beings naturally need to have people around, feel affection and love; however, they should also be able to be alone. Alone with themselves without the noise of the world.
I have found being alone has allowed for me to be honest with myself. It has allowed for me to shut the opinions and ridicule of the world out. When I am alone, I am there with my thoughts. I am allowed to ask myself whatever I want and answer honestly, without the consequences of someone having some opinion about it. When I am alone, I recognize myself. I know who I am and I am able to see myself clearly without the pressure of being someone who everyone else wants me to be or what society expects. When I am alone, I am able to hate myself for things that I allow in my life. I am also able to love myself for having the strength and courage to do the things I never thought I could do. When I am alone, I find out new things about my being that I need to work on or that I feel would benefit others.
Be alone from time to time. Get rid of the noise of the world that tries so hard to mold us into these people that we know nothing about. After all, you know yourself better than anyone else.

My God

I have encountered some people who have tried to introduce me to their God, tried to convince me of their religion and tried to force me into their small box of beliefs. Although I appreciate their efforts, it is in their best interest I let them know I am not interested in religion, their God or their small box they fit everything in to. To explain why, here it is:

God is in the sunrise
God is in the sunset
God is in the breeze by the sea
God is every place I choose to be

God is in the highest mountain
God is in the deepest oceans
God is in the greenest land
God is in the dry desert sand

God is in the birds that fly
God is in the worm that crawls
God is in the bear that sleeps
God is in the willow that weeps

God is in my son's eyes
God is in the tears I cry
God is in the smiles I see
God is inside of me

I choose to live with the infinity of what God is. God is not a religion or a theory which promotes arrogance and hate. God is you, God is me. God is our journey and God is our destination.

Alpha Wives

The local radio station had a segment blaming wives who make more money than their husbands being the culprit of some failed marriages. They gave the example of some Hollywood couples, but I really cannot use that as an argument since 90% of the world does not live in Hollywood Lala land.
I listened to the segment carefully because I wanted to make sure I understood the reasoning here. Some marriages fail because once wives make more money than their husbands, the husband feels emasculated and it ruins the marriage. HUH?! So is this not the husband being the culprit of a failed marriage? His insecurity which drives the marriage towards doom? Then I thought about it some more and came to realize that it could be the following: 1. Alpha wives work outside of the home all day long, come home and have to continue their work there. Cook dinner, take care of the kids, clean the house and satisfy their husband's sexual appetite. 2. Alpha wives are able to take care of themselves financially and no longer need someone to take care of them in that sense. Their expectations are as follows: a best friend to share the responsibilities of home with. 3. Alpha wives obviously work hard to have a successful career and to provide for her family, her expectations of her partner usually reflect the same. If she comes home to a less than motivated husband, this can be a huge turn off. As stated in #2, Alpha wives want a best friend and NOT another child to have to motivate and check after. 4. Since the lack of motivation is probably a turn off for Alpha wives, whining would be too. Whining about how much she works and maybe about the things that the husbands have to help with. Since it is expected for the alpha wife to do all the work in the home as well as outside the home, why would she want to deal with whining as well. She may as well do it all alone without all the waa waa waaing. 5.Finally, this may not be as common, the expectation that the Alpha wife should make MORE money and be MORE successful. Encouragement and appreciation can go a long way, but making an alpha wife feel like she is still not doing enough will probably drive her to whole another direction....probably away from the husband.
So I conclude, the culprit is the changing times and the lack of determination by both parties to change with it. Times have changed, don't force values from 60 years ago on today and if you are then you will need to live like it. The man works, provides for the home without bitching about it or threatening to leave the stay at home mom and kids on their broke ass.

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AMERICA

AMERICA was named after an Italian explorer Amerigo Vespucci and some argue it was named after an English merchant Richard Amerike. Regardless, It is interesting to me that some people boast about their Americanism, expressing their prejudice against immigrants and/or other ethnicities while living in a country who was settled by immigrants and named after one.
Americans raise their American flags while sipping on Colombian coffee and wearing shirts made in China. They watch their American shows on televisions made in Japan and spoil their children with toys made in China and other Asian countries. They celebrate cinco de mayo, st. patrick's day and some Oktoberfest while wearing tshirts with American flags on it. They complain about paying taxes towards welfare while hiring cheap labor who are more likely from outside of the U.S. They talk about making America safer, while bombing foreigners overseas. I don't know what American is, but I do know there is absolutely no reason for an American to feel superior to any other non-American.

Introvert

I have had many people (some even in my family) complaining about my personality. I don't talk much, I am a cold person, I shut everyone out of my life....for a long time I have been trying to figure out how to explain to them that they are just misunderstanding me. I found this and felt it took everything I wanted to say right out of my brain:

Myth #1 – Introverts don’t like to talk.
This is not true. Introverts just don’t talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk. Get an introvert talking about something they are interested in, and they won’t shut up for days.

Myth #2 – Introverts are shy.
Shyness has nothing to do with being an Introvert. Introverts are not necessarily afraid of people. What they need is a reason to interact. They don’t interact for the sake of interacting. If you want to talk to an Introvert, just start talking. Don’t worry about being polite.

Myth #3 – Introverts are rude.
Introverts often don’t see a reason for beating around the bush with social pleasantries. They want everyone to just be real and honest. Unfortunately, this is not acceptable in most settings, so Introverts can feel a lot of pressure to fit in, which they find exhausting.

Myth #4 – Introverts don’t like people.
On the contrary, Introverts intensely value the few friends they have. They can count their close friends on one hand. If you are lucky enough for an introvert to consider you a friend, you probably have a loyal ally for life. Once you have earned their respect as being a person of substance, you’re in.

Myth #5 – Introverts don’t like to go out in public.
Nonsense. Introverts just don’t like to go out in public FOR AS LONG. They also like to avoid the complications that are involved in public activities. They take in data and experiences very quickly, and as a result, don’t need to be there for long to “get it.” They’re ready to go home, recharge, and process it all. In fact, recharging is absolutely crucial for Introverts.

Myth #6 – Introverts always want to be alone.
Introverts are perfectly comfortable with their own thoughts. They think a lot. They daydream. They like to have problems to work on, puzzles to solve. But they can also get incredibly lonely if they don’t have anyone to share their discoveries with. They crave an authentic and sincere connection with ONE PERSON at a time.

Myth #7 – Introverts are weird.
Introverts are often individualists. They don’t follow the crowd. They’d prefer to be valued for their novel ways of living. They think for themselves and because of that, they often challenge the norm. They don’t make most decisions based on what is popular or trendy.

Myth #8 – Introverts are aloof nerds.
Introverts are people who primarily look inward, paying close attention to their thoughts and emotions. It’s not that they are incapable of paying attention to what is going on around them, it’s just that their inner world is much more stimulating and rewarding to them.

Myth #9 – Introverts don’t know how to relax and have fun.
Introverts typically relax at home or in nature, not in busy public places. Introverts are not thrill seekers and adrenaline junkies. If there is too much talking and noise going on, they shut down. Their brains are too sensitive to the neurotransmitter called Dopamine. Introverts and Extroverts have different dominant neuro-pathways. Just look it up.

Myth #10 – Introverts can fix themselves and become Extroverts.
A world without Introverts would be a world with few scientists, musicians, artists, poets, filmmakers, doctors, mathematicians, writers, and philosophers. That being said, there are still plenty of techniques an Extrovert can learn in order to interact with Introverts. (Yes, I reversed these two terms on purpose to show you how biased our society is.) Introverts cannot “fix themselves” and deserve respect for their natural temperament and contributions to the human race. In fact, one study (Silverman, 1986) showed that the percentage of Introverts increases with IQ.

The 30 things I have learned in the last 30 years.

I will have completed 30 years of life this month and wanted to share some things that I have learned in these last 30 years. I am so thankful for every single year I have lived and am looking forward to the next 30 years. My 60 things I have learned in the last 60 years should be really interesting.
The 30 things I have learned in the last 30 years
1. There are people that stay in your life, people that go from your life and people that come back into your life...they all have a purpose in creating you and your perception of others.
2. The problems we have are only problems if we acknowledge them as such.
3. Never underestimate the power of a smile and giving a compliment.
4. We will never appreciate the destination if we do not learn from the journey.
5. Everyone loves differently.
6. Being strong also means asking for help when you need it.
7.We are all entitled to our feelings.
8. Sometimes saying nothing at all is saying enough.
9. hindsight is 20/20 with a slight case of amnesia
10. Everyone has insecurities, and the person that boasts the most is the one that is the most insecure.
11. Envying someone else's life is ignoring your own purpose.
12. We view the past on how we feel about our present.
13 Give to give without the expectation of getting something in return.
14.Women buy the expensive things to wear not to show off for the men, but to show them off for other women.
15. Make up can cover a lot of ugliness on the outside, but the ugliness inside will always surface.
16. Your perception of others is based on how you perceive yourself.
17. Love is in need of love today,
18. Lying is like a cancer. It starts small and then gets bigger until it kills...in this case, it kills trust, relationships and your credibility.
19.Some friends are best left in the past
20. Your reaction to someones action is controlled by you and only you.
21. Not every opportunity is a good one but it is sure to teach a lesson.
22. Being a parent is the toughest job in the world, but the best gift
23. Always assume the best.
24. Never worry about the things you cannot control.
25. If you want to know how someone really feels about you, get them angry or drunk.
26. Every decision we make will affect at least 1 person guaranteed.
27. Give everyone the benefit of the doubt, but know when to protect yourself from misery.
28. Bitches be crazy!!
29. If you don't take care of yourself mentally, it will eventually affect you physically.
30. The energy you put out is the energy that will bounce back to you. If you want love, give love.