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How many times has someone asked you "how are you doing?" and you replied " I am good!", when you really wanted to tell them the opposite? How many times have you walked into a room with the world on your shoulders, but smiled so big other people smiled because you walked in? How many times have you needed help, yet were the first one to volunteer when someone else needed it? How many times were you taken advantage of by someone, knew that was case, yet continued to be nice to that person? How many times have you been hated but continued to combat it with love? How many times have you been told you are worthless, yet continued to try to help others see their self worth? If you have done any of these things, I am sure you are exhausted. The pressure to keep a brave face and continue to give all of yourself to others, while there is no more to give, is a tremendous challenge; however, it is one of the most rewarding. When we go through our challenges, there is always someone else going through more difficulty. If we can step out of our misery and recognize it, we are more willing to walk beside someone, extending our hand to be held by them and to be leaned on. When we are selfless, we may see it in a different perspective and gain a better understanding of our situation. In many ways, when we save a life, we end up saving our own. So, no matter what adversity is present in your life, don't allow it to drag you into its cave. If you can bring a little bit of light into a person's life, it may be that little spark they need to brighten up their entire self. Before you know it, someone will have done it for you as well. My only advice to keep your self protected is to learn how to recognize when someone just wants a company for their misery and to know the difference between self sacrifice and selflessness. Understand that we can only help those, who want to help themselves and we can only be helped if we ourselves are already trying to do so.

Vladimir Kush' Candle

11 Things You Should Start Doing for Yourself Today

“Enjoy everything that happens in your life, but never make your happiness or success dependent on an attachment to any person, place or thing.” Wayne Dyer
You deserve to live a more balanced, harmonious and happier life, starting today and starting now. Today, not tomorrow, nor the day after tomorrow is where your life is, where your life starts. Take good care of yourself, “begin doing what you want to do now. We are not living in eternity. We have only this moment, sparkling like a star in our hand and melting like a snowflake…” Francis Bacon
Focus more of your attention on yourself and pay close attention to all of these things for they are meant to help you create a more balance and happier life, because you deserve the best life has to offer. Are you ready? Let’s get started.

1. START BREATHING PROPERLY, SOFTLY AND DEEPLY

When was the last time you paid attention to your breathe? Whether you believe it or not, we forgot how to breathe, and what we call breathing is nothing more than shallow breathing. Take deep breaths throughout the day, pay attention to your breathing and know that by doing so, not only will you improve your health, but you will also train yourself into becoming more present and engaged in the present moment, more present and engaged in your own life and the life of others.
“Shallow breathing is the root of all evil but conscious deep breathing restores and secures our souls.” Desmond Green

2. LET GO OF YOUR PERSONAL HISTORY – ENJOY THE PRESENT MOMENT

Let go of your past. Have a clear image of where you want to go, know how you want your future to look like but live in the present moment, for the present moment is all you ever had, all that you have and all you’ll ever have. Know that every time you identify with your past, you deny yourself the right to grow and evolve, the right to advance in life.
“By referring to previous struggles and using them as reasons for not getting on with your life today, you’re assigning responsibility to the past for why you can’t be successful or happy in the present.” Dr. Wayne Dyer

3. LET GO OF ALL THOSE THINGS THAT NO LONGER SERVE YOU

Find the inner strength and courage to let go of all those things that no longer serve you, of all those things that no longer bring joy and happiness into your life. You and I know that “There are things that we never want to let go of, people we never want to leave behind. But keep in mind that letting go isn’t the end of the world, it’s the beginning of a new life.”

4. FORGIVE YOURSELF FOR PAST MISTAKES

It’s okay to make mistakes. If we don’t make mistakes we don’t move, we don’t grow, we are stagnating. Forgive yourself for past mistakes and know that forgiveness is a gift you give to yourself, forgiveness “is the highest, most beautiful form of love. In return, you will receive untold peace and happiness.” Robert Muller

5. FORGIVE ALL THOSE PEOPLE WHO HAVE HURT YOU

Start forgiving those who have hurt you, because you see, “When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free.” Catherine Ponder

6. RELEASE ALL JUDGMENTS YOU HAVE PLACED UPON YOURSELF AND OTHERS

Whenever you catch yourself being judgmental towards yourself and others, repeating these words to yourself will help a lot: “Judgments prevent us from seeing the good that lies beyond appearances.” Wayne Dyer. I use these words whenever I feel like my mind is getting ready to become judgmental, and I have to admit that they do help me be more open minded and tolerant both toward myself and others.

7. EXPECT THE BEST FROM LIFE

Expect the best and you will receive the best. Open your eyes and see the beauty that is present all around you, open your eyes and see yourself as the beautiful being you really are. Expect the best from yourself, from those around you and from life, because you see, “When you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.” Paulo Coelho

8. NURTURE The RELATIONSHIP you have with YOURSELF and OTHERS

Love yourself, accept who you are and work on pleasing yourself before pleasing others, nurture yourself first before nurturing others. It is very important to start with yourself and I will give you one example to understand why that is.
You know how when you are on the airplane the flight attendant is giving all the passengers the instructions as to what to do it an emergency and they tell you to put your oxygen mask on first? Well, the same goes here. You will not be able to help others if you don’t help and take care of yourself first. Nurture the relationship you have with yourself so that you can be able to nurture your relationships with others.

9. START TREATING YOURSELF AS YOU WOULD WANT OTHERS TO TREAT YOU

Because if you yourself are not being kind and loving towards your own person, you can’t expect others to do som right?. You can’t expect others to do something for you that you yourself are not capable of doing. Start treating yourself in the exact way you would like others to treat you.
“Let the world know you as you are, not as you think you should be, because sooner or later, if you are posing, you will forget the pose, and then where are you?” Fanny Brice

10. START TO NURTURE YOUR MIND, BODY, HEART AND SPIRIT

Work on nurturing your mind, your body, your heart and your soul, because “If you nurture your mind, body, and spirit, your time will expand. You will gain a new perspective that will allow you to accomplish much more.” Brian Koslow

11. DEVELOP AN ATITUDE OF GRATITUDE

Start developing “an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing that every step forward is a step toward achieving something bigger and better than your current situation.” Brian Tracy
Know that who you are right now, where you are and what you have is more than enough and appreciate it all.


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Mental Noise

We go about life with so much mental noise. Small things trigger thoughts, which trigger emotions, which trigger behavior, which trigger decisions, which trigger life events. All that mental noise can have serious consequences and sometimes lead us down a less than desirable path. Some of us may be able to look back and pick out that one mental noise which sent us on a whirlwind of a ride, but we never remember why we allowed it to be our driver in the first place. The interesting truth is, we as people should know ourselves better than anyone, we know our own likes and dislikes, we should know what makes us happy, afraid or what is good for us; yet we go about life relying on external triggers, people's opinions of ourselves, other people's success as our example and our good old friend fear to push us in whatever direction it wishes to. I have long heard allowing yourself to be silent in the mind, will manifest everything you truly want. As difficult as it may be, it is important we shut off the mental noise and just hear nothing so our mind can rest and refresh, flushing out all the negative and learning how to recognize our own ability to feel our god given instincts so WE become the driver of our lives.

10LE's "My path"

FEAR

By definition, FEAR is "a distressing emotion aroused by impending danger, evil, pain, etc., whether the threat is real or imagined; the feeling or condition of being afraid." For me, fear is the drunk friend who I need to send to rehab so it can come back and experience life sober. I have allowed for this friend to hang around for a long time. Giving it shot after shot of tequila and keeping it obliterated so life never looks completely possible. I stumble with it and instead of allowing it to pass out and sleep, I carry it around with me to my next chapter and feed it some more. There are also people that come around who help me keep my friend wasted and who actually enjoy seeing my friend and I attached and codependent. They introduce me to their drunk friends who apparently they carry around as well. The distraction of the lush never allows for me to attend to what I truly want in life. It keeps me in its fog and drains the life out of me. It convinces me that if I just let it sleep to sober up, I will not be able to survive without it. It has persuaded me that life for me is only supposed to be a struggle and the only way to get through it, is to carry the drunk around with me so I feel protected and prepared. However, I also have another friend named FAITH. FAITH is pure and honest. It makes sure I stop to smell the roses and joins me on long walks to make sure I am taking in what life has to offer. It listens to every single word I say and tells me everything I wish for, I will achieve. It opens my heart so I may pour it all out while filling it right back up again with the most sobering love. It has been knocking on my door for a while, but FEAR has made me keep FAITH outside, never allowing it to come in but waiting patiently. Until now!! I put fear on a plane to the best rehab one can go to. It's probably doing deep meditative yoga right now and kicking itself in the ass for not sobering up sooner. As for FAITH and I, well, we are moving along very nicely and wish FEAR all the best.

AD's "North Shore, HI Sunrise"

Thank You

Life has thrown a few curve balls, taken me way up high and has sent me free falling. It has never explained it's puzzling outcomes fully and has often left me asking more questions. It has given me the wonderful gift of a son and has taken away people who have taught me to show my teeth when I smile, to marry my career before any man and that it will not be your accomplishments that you will boast about on your death bed, but your family. It has shown me beauty comes from the inside out and it is always best to be kind. It has shown me that what I resist, persists; no matter how long I put it off, it will come back to remind me to liberate myself from it again until I do. It has allowed for me to peak into my future and has opened my eyes to the things that I have always wanted. It has given me obstacles to overcome so I may look back and know I am a better person today than yesterday and will be a better person tomorrow than I am today. Through all of the missed curve balls, highs, lows and vertigo I will say THANK YOU to life. Thank you for giving me everything I have asked for, in whichever way it came wrapped.

10LE's "Where the Journey may go...." 

Relationships 101-11 lessons learned

1. Never try to save someone from themselves, in the end, the one who will need saving is you.
2. Understand everyone loves differently. Some love with cooking you dinner and some love with leaving you a note to remind you how wonderful you are.
3. If someone is only impressed by your material wealth, expect a hollow heart.
4. Always listen when you hear and think before you speak.
5. Be the person you want the other to be.
6. Give to give and receive with appreciation and without expectation
7. Always argue fair and never point a finger in blame. Remember when you are pointing your finger at someone, three of them are pointing right back at you.
8. Never be ashamed to SHOW love. Even if it means you may get rejected. Love is better expressed than repressed.
9. When a relationship ends, no matter the circumstances, let go of it along with any anger or resentment. Wish the person well and hope they find a better love than what you gave. Energy is reciprocated, what you put out you get back.
10. A broken heart will heal. The next person to hold it is not responsible for what happened to it before.
11. Choose someone who will make you a better person. 

Salvador Dali's Love's Promises

Assholes and egos...they are everywhere!

" I can only be verbally hurt, if I give the person trying to hurt me, the permission to do so."- Gandhi

I have had some interesting relationships in my 30 years of life. I have come to realize these days, the disappointment of the way a person makes me feel should not be towards them, but towards myself for giving them the permission to make me feel a certain way. We give our power away to people and then expect them to take care of it when the power should stay with us and we should guard it and use it in positive ways. Although I like to assume the best of people, I have noticed the nature of people are based on their ego and their ego will always speak and take action before their spirit does. Ego is selfish and insecure, which drives negative action towards others. You can never expect to win a fight by allowing your ego to speak for you. So don't allow it to do so, speak from your spirit, where there is understanding and love. Even though your ego may say you have to be right, it is always better to be kind. A kinder world, is a better world.

Always remember this.....Assholes=ego! They are everywhere!!